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As human-beings we all chase for happiness. We want to feel and be happy at every moment of our life, however this is an unrealistic goal. Being happy is constant work in progress, and for most of us the state of happiness is a very short lived moment. A moment that passes quickly, the short loved happy moment is there for you to briefly touch. It is completely normal for all humans to go through phases of short lived happiness. The reason is that we all chase for happiness, so to obtain happiness something special  have to occur in your life, in order for you to feel happy.  It might be going to a concert, eating dinner at a fancy restaurant or buying a new dress. All these things are so called special events that you allow yourself to have, in order for you to feel better. Feel happy. Therefor for most people happiness is a short lived moment, because most of us need those special events to happen for us to become happy. So a few days after the dinner party, you are  no longer living on the state of happiness you felt during the dinner, during eating exiting foods.  You are back at maybe just being between happy and unhappy, a state that you cant really define.

I truly belive that our chase for happiness is not helping us improve our lives but rather making us less happy and content in life.

Maybe our idea of happiness may itself be the main obstacle keeping us from true happiness?


“breathing mindfully, you simply
enjoy your in-breath an your out-breath.
You bring the mind home to the body, and you realise
that you are alive, still alive, and that is a wonder.
To be alive is the greatest of all miracles.
We have to learn to live our life deeply as human being.
We need to live every breath deeply,
so that we have peace, JOY, and freedom as we breathe.”
Thich Nhat Hanh

My thoughts are that; instead of chasing for happiness we should start connecting with joy. Happiness in my opinion is state of where you have to stay, but joy is more about feeling great about things in life. Therefor its no pressure of staying in that state, feeling joy will come easier than staying in the state of happiness. Joy can be so easily obtained, if you have the right mindset or you mange to work with your mindset, you can find joy in all the little things in life. The more we work with our mindset and start paying attention to everything around us, and manage to see the wonders of life, we will be able to feel and experience joy, feeling joy without the pressure of staying in that state. Joy can also happen when you are at a place in your life that you are not particularly exited about or happy with. I find that joy comes easier than happiness. If I am feeling sad for something, maybe just playing one song that I really love will bring me joy in that moment, even though I´m not feeling the state of happiness the song will bring me joy, even in a state of misery.

Changing your mindset might take a little time, you will probably fall back in the habit of chasing happiness, but when you realise that you are feeling down because you where on the path of chasing happiness again. Bring yourself back to working with your mindset, and start appreciating little things again, allowing yourself to feel joy over being able to eat food every day. having a job, being able to feel everything that you feel. Joy of life itself. It might feel a bit strange in the beginning, allowing the feelings of joy from things that you normally wouldn´t care so much for before.

Go out, start experiencing life on your body and start diving into joy and explore how joy will make your life better and bring more contentment into your life.


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A friendly and loving reminder that you should allow yourself time off from everything that you feel becomes a burden or stressful. Everyday life for many is very stressful unfortunately, which often leeds to exhaustion and even breakdowns. Life is to short to live without truly living. Become more present and stop worrying about everything you think you have to achieve and complete. Trust in the universe and trust that the more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

Take time off. Rest. Go away for a few days more often. See nature. Be without technology for a few days. Breath. Smile. Laugh. Nurture your self and your soul. Listen to what your body is telling you. Stop trying to be so damn great all the time. 

” Our idea of happiness may itself be the main obstacle keeping us form true happiness”

Thich Nhat Hanh

 


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Are you comfortable in your own skin? Are you comfortable with yourself when you are naked?

We are all born naked, and we all play naked on the beach as children. Then we reach a certain age and our parents no longer feel comfortable with us running around naked. As young adults we are taught that females have to cover up their breasts and that female nipples is associated with something sexual. We are also starting to question the shape and size of our breasts, and our waistline, bum, six-packs and toned visible muscles. Our bodies become so important that we become in need of constant confirmation from others, specially the opposite sex.

We all find flaws with our own bodies, we compare our features to others, it is almost as being happy with your body is shameful, because society is constantly chasing for something better. Body shaming is a thing that has to stop, we need to reconnect with our bodies and start appreciating all different sizes and shapes. Stop sexualising female breasts, the are beautiful indeed, but so are many other body parts too, that we are showing off to the world with no problem. If I dont wanna wear a bra I should not wear one. If I dont wanna wear a bikini top to the beach, why should I? It is my body, my breast. We all have them, shivas and shaktis.

Being happy with our bodies is not about having to have the perfect body, because there is no such thing as perfect. It is about embracing what you have and are. Become comfortable in your own skin, completely naked. Touch and sense all the curves and lines of your body, it is perfect as it is. As long as you are looking after your physical and emotional health, what matter the most is a healthy internal body and mind, a glowing inside will reflect on your external body and make your outside shine.


“Growing up I went through body shaming from other people, and also my own judgement towards myself. I was to skinny, which I would always receive comments on from others, which made me believe it myself. I was to skinny. I would try to eat unhealthy to gain weight. I loved running and exercise, but I would barely allow myself, as I was so worried I would look even more skinny & lose weight. I would wear a bra that was to big with paddings, so it actually looked like I had some curves. I got so used to people thinking that I had eating disorders, it almost did not bother me anymore.

Then I became an adult. Suddenly I started getting all these compliments on how amazing my body look. How lucky I am to be so tiny. How fit I look, perfect toned muscles. Telling me how lucky I am.
How lucky….

Suddenly this little girl went from being imperfect to perfect in the eyes of society?” 


I´m not perfect, and I dont want to be perfect. But I do feel perfect just as I am. Ive come to love my body, just as it is. It deserves to be appreciated just as it is. Your body deserves to be appreciated by you, just as it is.  Embrace every inch of it, be one with your naked body & start accepting.
We are all born naked. We all have bodies of flesh, bones, muscles, fat, hair and curves. Our bodies is a very important part of the human experience. Embrace your bodily experience. Become one with it and if you, just like I do feel; oppressed by society? Start going against the stream, yes it will put you in an uncomfortable situation, but if nobody is willing to fight for equality and challenge the rules of society, nothing will change.


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This might sound self-centred and self-obsessive, which is not the intention. Being your own biggest fan, I simply mean that you should cheer for yourself and stop telling yourself that you are not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough or strong enough. We all know very well how to talk ourselves down, but we do not manage cheering ourselves up the same way. We all have our stronger sides and weaker sides, but that does not mean you should talk yourself down, rather tell yourself how good you are, and tell yourself that you can do it. If we keep telling ourselves and others how bad we are at something, we will be bad at it. I´m an living example myself. Not feeling confident enough and telling myself that I´m much weaker than I actually am. If someone told me a year ago that I would feel comfortable with having a yoga class for 25 people, I would laugh at them and say absolutely no way. I thought about this last night after leading a class, feeling amazingly energised and really confident in myself. I simply just had to jump into it, facing my fears.
On the journey I discovered that most things that I fear are less scary than what I imagined. I also discover that I still have much to learn, but I already know so much more than what I think I do.

If you feel that this is hitting a sensitive spot in yourself,  maybe you know that you are doing this to yourself way more often than you should? Start today. Stop bringing yourself down. Start writing down the things you are good at. Keep repeating it to yourself, tell yourself that you are good. Then instead of putting negative energy into things you feel less confident about, start on a journey of learning and discovering why these things are hard, and what you can do to make them less difficult. Face your fears, one fear at a time. Give yourself time to overcome and concur.
Become your own biggest fan.


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DISCONNECTING TO CONNECT?

Sometimes we truly need to disconnect to connect. Connect to ourselves, connect to our partners, friends or to our surroundings. We need to disconnect from technology that is consuming so much of our energy even when we are not realising it, the technology is draining us for energy. We need to disconnect from our work and our daily life.

Last weekend I went into the mountains staying in a Teepee at an eco farm up in the hills. We barely have internet connection there which gave us time to disconnect from technology and connect with each other, with nature and with ourselves. The concept of staying at the farm is that everyone provides to create community and togetherness. Sharing meals with meaningful and present conversations without the disturbance of modern technology,  which is a rare experience in our society today. A weekend of disconnecting from technology is opening up for connecting with real conversations with yourself and the people your sharing the experience with.

When was the last time you just sat and watched a river or a waterfall ?


Transcending into a new season I find it important to cleanse my space and my surroundings, create clarity and cultivate new energy. Specially going into winter, your energy levels will most likely decrease. It will be very important to be aware of what drains your energy and what gives you energy. I find disconnecting from modern technology is cultivating energy. I´m taking the energy that would usually be put into my phone or pc; into something more meaningful, managing to be more present and connected in the moment.

Give yourself time off from your technology and be present, cultivate that energy and use it to create positive change in your life.

 


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“Dont let people control you through their opinions”

” Most of the time we are offended because we have been taught to place value on someone else´s thoughts, feelings and experiences than our own. We allow other people to shape our self-image so when the can´t see or treat us they way we deserve to be seen or treated, we feel offended. At some point, you´re going to have to decide not to allow others to take your dignity through their opinions and expressions. Every time you are offended , you give a piece of your personal power away to the person who provokes you. With your anger, you´re saying;
Your opinion of me matters more than my opinion of myself. 
When you choose to get offended, you choose to get involved in their emotions and perceptions of you. Cut the emotional and mental cord from those who can´t see you the way you deserve to be see.
They don´t matter. “


I read this paragraph a few weeks back and it really stuck with me. I´m I really letting other peoples opinion of me matter? I´m offended by you? Do I try to change my behaviour so that others will find it easier to accept me?

I had to admit to myself that I am guilty of all of these questions that I asked myself. I have been through them all, more than once. I believe we all have. But I also know that I have grown into a person who are doing it less and less. I´m choosing to be that somehow; annoying, weird, different, freak? Because I find it important to be true to myself, my opinions and the life I want to lead. If people dont go with my flow, I simply try to accept and let them be and I distance myself. Life is to short to live by the wants and needs of other people. What I´ve come to discover as I´ve grown into a more real version of myself, is there are people out there who flow with me. Amazing humans who also dare to be them self, and who also dare to stand up against other peoples opinions of them.
We all deserve to be who and what we want to be, so release your true self and try to distance yourself from the judgement surrounding you.

I Am mine. 
Before I am ever anyone else´s 

– Nayyirah Waheed


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lovely humans out there, hope you are sharing good vibes and energies with everyone around you. I´m currently in the mountains, filling my lungs with fresh oxygen and healing my soul with nature and the smell of purity. Experiencing the first snow for this season and loving the cold air on my cheeks.

On my way here I was thinking about role models, and what makes a adequate role model. A person whom teach and educate their peers in a honest, interesting and transparent way, not making you follow her or him because they pursue your will, but because their points and behaviour inspires you to make good choices. They inspire you to be a better version of yourself and to change because you desire it, not someone else.

 

If you want to  be a good role model to others, be a good role model to yourself. 


A good role model should be a good role model to them selves, if you want to inspire and teach others you need to be true to yourself and truly believe in you. We all go true periods in life when we feel less confident and unsure of ourself. Then we have periods when we we thrive and feel like we can master anything and we also believe in our own capability of being great. The greatness you feel and your confident about yourself is what you want to share and give to others. This way they can take your energy onto themselves and become a better version of themselves. You also have to be honest and humble and live after high moral standards, asking yourself; Would I dare to share this with other people and also stand for what I believe and the choices I make?

Be Confident
Be Transparent
Be Honest
Be Humble


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Good morning soulmates, a new day is here to grant us new opportunities for more wisdom, building relationships & taking steps towards our goals.

My journey to higher consciousness and working on my goals include many different approaches. One is listing to podcasts that I find relevant to the many things that I have an interest in or podcasts that add value to my journey of self-growth and improvement.

 

A podcast that I´ve listened to lately is by Shaman Durek, who share stories himself or he has interesting people on the pod sharing stories with us, ancient wisdom and inspirational knowledge to higher consciousness and improved living.

CURRENT EPISODE RECOMMONDATION 

Conscious Sex: Healing, Empowerment & Love. with Alexandra Roxo 

Intimacy + Influence + Impact with Serah D´Laine

 



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Good morning divine souls of the universe, love and compassion to you all from my heart and my soul on this amazing day. A new day of new opportunities and life. I´ve previous spoken about if you truly want to embark on a journey of yoga you need to practise everyday, even if it is only for 7 minutes. The 7 minutes of yoga is the physical yoga, the movement of asana. However yoga should not be about the movement alone, it is a lifestyle, a life choice. The lifestyle of yoga is a constant practise, a philosophy of how to live, the 8 limbs of yoga which will / can lead you to eternal bliss.

The world we live in today is a challenge for the true practise of yoga, as there are so many influences around us that is not aligning with the yoga practise and the moral philosophy of yoga. Society today might not align with the yogi lifestyle, but if you truly believe in the philosophy and see the benefit, you will manage to find a balance of living in this modern world while practising yoga. Aligning your yogi path with the modern lifestyle.

My personal experience with my yoga practise is balancing the practise of yoga while I have or go on holiday. In my day to day life I´ve managed to find a really good balance of living in this time and age integrating the yoga to all aspects of it. I´m still not succeeding 100% at all times, but I´m constantly working on improving.  Holiday ´s can be more tricky, depending on the type of holiday I often find it harder to eat as clean and healthy as I should, and give myself enough alone time to work on my meditation practise and my journey inward. I believe the issue lies with my fear of missing out, so when I´m going on holiday I want to do and see as much as possible vs when I´m travelling for longer periods I can really give myself time to relax and dive deeper into my yogi lifestyle. Longer trips and journeys are much more beneficial for my practise than so called “normal” holidays, so my solution to this is having more long travels than holidays.

Less holiday – more travel – more connected – less fluctuations of the mind

 


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We are at the end of August, last days of summer before first month of autumn for us in the northern hemisphere. Going into a new season I find it very comforting cleaning up; my mind, my body and my surroundings. Allowing space for new things to manifest and grow.
One way is to clean out our closet, accumulating less things. I have way to much, all though I dont really have that much, I feel like I do. My dilemma when it comes to my things, is that I cant just give everything away, as I do have a lot of really nice expensive things. To solve the problem, I decided to take them to a local market here in Oslo, set up a stand with my sister and sell things for reasonable prices. This is a great way to clear out your space, have a fun day at the market and give your things a new home.



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