“Dont let people control you through their opinions”

” Most of the time we are offended because we have been taught to place value on someone else´s thoughts, feelings and experiences than our own. We allow other people to shape our self-image so when the can´t see or treat us they way we deserve to be seen or treated, we feel offended. At some point, you´re going to have to decide not to allow others to take your dignity through their opinions and expressions. Every time you are offended , you give a piece of your personal power away to the person who provokes you. With your anger, you´re saying;
Your opinion of me matters more than my opinion of myself. 
When you choose to get offended, you choose to get involved in their emotions and perceptions of you. Cut the emotional and mental cord from those who can´t see you the way you deserve to be see.
They don´t matter. “


I read this paragraph a few weeks back and it really stuck with me. I´m I really letting other peoples opinion of me matter? I´m offended by you? Do I try to change my behaviour so that others will find it easier to accept me?

I had to admit to myself that I am guilty of all of these questions that I asked myself. I have been through them all, more than once. I believe we all have. But I also know that I have grown into a person who are doing it less and less. I´m choosing to be that somehow; annoying, weird, different, freak? Because I find it important to be true to myself, my opinions and the life I want to lead. If people dont go with my flow, I simply try to accept and let them be and I distance myself. Life is to short to live by the wants and needs of other people. What I´ve come to discover as I´ve grown into a more real version of myself, is there are people out there who flow with me. Amazing humans who also dare to be them self, and who also dare to stand up against other peoples opinions of them.
We all deserve to be who and what we want to be, so release your true self and try to distance yourself from the judgement surrounding you.

I Am mine. 
Before I am ever anyone else´s 

– Nayyirah Waheed


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