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Are you comfortable in your own skin? Are you comfortable with yourself when you are naked?

We are all born naked, and we all play naked on the beach as children. Then we reach a certain age and our parents no longer feel comfortable with us running around naked. As young adults we are taught that females have to cover up their breasts and that female nipples is associated with something sexual. We are also starting to question the shape and size of our breasts, and our waistline, bum, six-packs and toned visible muscles. Our bodies become so important that we become in need of constant confirmation from others, specially the opposite sex.

We all find flaws with our own bodies, we compare our features to others, it is almost as being happy with your body is shameful, because society is constantly chasing for something better. Body shaming is a thing that has to stop, we need to reconnect with our bodies and start appreciating all different sizes and shapes. Stop sexualising female breasts, the are beautiful indeed, but so are many other body parts too, that we are showing off to the world with no problem. If I dont wanna wear a bra I should not wear one. If I dont wanna wear a bikini top to the beach, why should I? It is my body, my breast. We all have them, shivas and shaktis.

Being happy with our bodies is not about having to have the perfect body, because there is no such thing as perfect. It is about embracing what you have and are. Become comfortable in your own skin, completely naked. Touch and sense all the curves and lines of your body, it is perfect as it is. As long as you are looking after your physical and emotional health, what matter the most is a healthy internal body and mind, a glowing inside will reflect on your external body and make your outside shine.


“Growing up I went through body shaming from other people, and also my own judgement towards myself. I was to skinny, which I would always receive comments on from others, which made me believe it myself. I was to skinny. I would try to eat unhealthy to gain weight. I loved running and exercise, but I would barely allow myself, as I was so worried I would look even more skinny & lose weight. I would wear a bra that was to big with paddings, so it actually looked like I had some curves. I got so used to people thinking that I had eating disorders, it almost did not bother me anymore.

Then I became an adult. Suddenly I started getting all these compliments on how amazing my body look. How lucky I am to be so tiny. How fit I look, perfect toned muscles. Telling me how lucky I am.
How lucky….

Suddenly this little girl went from being imperfect to perfect in the eyes of society?” 


I´m not perfect, and I dont want to be perfect. But I do feel perfect just as I am. Ive come to love my body, just as it is. It deserves to be appreciated just as it is. Your body deserves to be appreciated by you, just as it is.  Embrace every inch of it, be one with your naked body & start accepting.
We are all born naked. We all have bodies of flesh, bones, muscles, fat, hair and curves. Our bodies is a very important part of the human experience. Embrace your bodily experience. Become one with it and if you, just like I do feel; oppressed by society? Start going against the stream, yes it will put you in an uncomfortable situation, but if nobody is willing to fight for equality and challenge the rules of society, nothing will change.


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This might sound self-centred and self-obsessive, which is not the intention. Being your own biggest fan, I simply mean that you should cheer for yourself and stop telling yourself that you are not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough or strong enough. We all know very well how to talk ourselves down, but we do not manage cheering ourselves up the same way. We all have our stronger sides and weaker sides, but that does not mean you should talk yourself down, rather tell yourself how good you are, and tell yourself that you can do it. If we keep telling ourselves and others how bad we are at something, we will be bad at it. I´m an living example myself. Not feeling confident enough and telling myself that I´m much weaker than I actually am. If someone told me a year ago that I would feel comfortable with having a yoga class for 25 people, I would laugh at them and say absolutely no way. I thought about this last night after leading a class, feeling amazingly energised and really confident in myself. I simply just had to jump into it, facing my fears.
On the journey I discovered that most things that I fear are less scary than what I imagined. I also discover that I still have much to learn, but I already know so much more than what I think I do.

If you feel that this is hitting a sensitive spot in yourself,  maybe you know that you are doing this to yourself way more often than you should? Start today. Stop bringing yourself down. Start writing down the things you are good at. Keep repeating it to yourself, tell yourself that you are good. Then instead of putting negative energy into things you feel less confident about, start on a journey of learning and discovering why these things are hard, and what you can do to make them less difficult. Face your fears, one fear at a time. Give yourself time to overcome and concur.
Become your own biggest fan.


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DISCONNECTING TO CONNECT?

Sometimes we truly need to disconnect to connect. Connect to ourselves, connect to our partners, friends or to our surroundings. We need to disconnect from technology that is consuming so much of our energy even when we are not realising it, the technology is draining us for energy. We need to disconnect from our work and our daily life.

Last weekend I went into the mountains staying in a Teepee at an eco farm up in the hills. We barely have internet connection there which gave us time to disconnect from technology and connect with each other, with nature and with ourselves. The concept of staying at the farm is that everyone provides to create community and togetherness. Sharing meals with meaningful and present conversations without the disturbance of modern technology,  which is a rare experience in our society today. A weekend of disconnecting from technology is opening up for connecting with real conversations with yourself and the people your sharing the experience with.

When was the last time you just sat and watched a river or a waterfall ?


Transcending into a new season I find it important to cleanse my space and my surroundings, create clarity and cultivate new energy. Specially going into winter, your energy levels will most likely decrease. It will be very important to be aware of what drains your energy and what gives you energy. I find disconnecting from modern technology is cultivating energy. I´m taking the energy that would usually be put into my phone or pc; into something more meaningful, managing to be more present and connected in the moment.

Give yourself time off from your technology and be present, cultivate that energy and use it to create positive change in your life.

 


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