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I´m currently doing research for a project my love tribe; Golden Goddesses and I are working on, which we are really exited about and I cant wait to share more with you guys. So doing some research I found this beautiful self-love poem, written by unknown author. Reading it for myself, I felt the immediate need to share it with as many people as possible.

Start your week with taking your time reading this poem, and truly find a way to start loving yourself authentically.


As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it RESPECT.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it MATURITY.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it SIMPLICITY.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is MODESTY.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.

As I began to love myself I recognised that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know THAT IS LIFE.

– Unknown author.


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Coming back to Australia for holiday started with some obstacles that I was not prepared for; As long as you flow with it and stay present in the moment of change the problems tend to seem smaller and will have a lesser negative effect on you. I love planning and follow plans, but the more I want to stick to the plan the less it works out, and disappointment occur. This pattern of planning and disappointment have thought me to be more present in the moment right now, and embrace any change that might happen to my plan.

Practising more presences have truly helped me in difficult situations or whenever things are not going the way I want them to, I try to take a few deep breaths and bring myself back to the current moment, and tell myself that this is what is is right now, analyse the current situations. Often it turns out that the current moment – the situations is not as bad as your mind is making it up to be. Just because its not what you hoped for or wanted it to be, does not mean its necessarily bad. If you have a positive mindset, any bad situation can be turned around.

The obstacles I´ve had on this trip, was a gentle reminder of being more present in the now, and not worry to much about the plan that I have mapped out. I believe that we are given what we need or have attracted in most cases true out life, and at this time in life I needed to embrace change, a difficult situation and work on being present in the now.


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Hi wonderful people
we are more than half way through December already, the year of 2018 is almost over, and wow what a year it has been. My year has been such a transformative journey, with many positives, some negatives, but all summed up; together they have made it a great year, both good and bad. We all go through different stages of our life, this year has been mostly focusing on truly connecting myself with myself, and seeking for what I should spend my time doing. Which is really and endless journey as we and everything is constantly changing.  

This past year has been a true transformation and reflecting back on my state of mind a year ago, I feel so grateful for where I am with myself right now.

I´m going to end the year much more mindfully than how my last year ended, I will spend the whole christmas period and New Years at a small meditation ashram in the bushes of Australia without technology. I´m doing 10 days of karma yoga, which means I will be working at the ashram a few hours everyday and then all my free time will be dedicated to deepening my meditation and yoga practise, focus inwards and give myself time to manifest new things for the beginning of the new year. I will spend a  month in Australia, catching up with friends and escaping winter for a litte while, I also have amazing things happening when I get back to Norway, which I will share with you in the beginning of the new year. 

I believe that we all need to take responsibility for our own happiness, joy, or future and life here and now, so to me it was not really hard to make the decision to not celebrate christmas, it is something I´ve been becoming more aware of the last couple of years. Reflecting upon it; christmas means very little to me. The typical christmas traditions, especially the food are so far from my ethical standards that it feels nothing but right to chose to not participate this year, I feel that its time for me to start new traditions.    

What ever you choose to do for the rest of the year, I do hope you do it mindfully with intention and loads of love. 


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As human-beings we all chase for happiness. We want to feel and be happy at every moment of our life, however this is an unrealistic goal. Being happy is constant work in progress, and for most of us the state of happiness is a very short lived moment. A moment that passes quickly, the short loved happy moment is there for you to briefly touch. It is completely normal for all humans to go through phases of short lived happiness. The reason is that we all chase for happiness, so to obtain happiness something special  have to occur in your life, in order for you to feel happy.  It might be going to a concert, eating dinner at a fancy restaurant or buying a new dress. All these things are so called special events that you allow yourself to have, in order for you to feel better. Feel happy. Therefor for most people happiness is a short lived moment, because most of us need those special events to happen for us to become happy. So a few days after the dinner party, you are  no longer living on the state of happiness you felt during the dinner, during eating exiting foods.  You are back at maybe just being between happy and unhappy, a state that you cant really define.

I truly belive that our chase for happiness is not helping us improve our lives but rather making us less happy and content in life.

Maybe our idea of happiness may itself be the main obstacle keeping us from true happiness?


“breathing mindfully, you simply
enjoy your in-breath an your out-breath.
You bring the mind home to the body, and you realise
that you are alive, still alive, and that is a wonder.
To be alive is the greatest of all miracles.
We have to learn to live our life deeply as human being.
We need to live every breath deeply,
so that we have peace, JOY, and freedom as we breathe.”
Thich Nhat Hanh

My thoughts are that; instead of chasing for happiness we should start connecting with joy. Happiness in my opinion is state of where you have to stay, but joy is more about feeling great about things in life. Therefor its no pressure of staying in that state, feeling joy will come easier than staying in the state of happiness. Joy can be so easily obtained, if you have the right mindset or you mange to work with your mindset, you can find joy in all the little things in life. The more we work with our mindset and start paying attention to everything around us, and manage to see the wonders of life, we will be able to feel and experience joy, feeling joy without the pressure of staying in that state. Joy can also happen when you are at a place in your life that you are not particularly exited about or happy with. I find that joy comes easier than happiness. If I am feeling sad for something, maybe just playing one song that I really love will bring me joy in that moment, even though I´m not feeling the state of happiness the song will bring me joy, even in a state of misery.

Changing your mindset might take a little time, you will probably fall back in the habit of chasing happiness, but when you realise that you are feeling down because you where on the path of chasing happiness again. Bring yourself back to working with your mindset, and start appreciating little things again, allowing yourself to feel joy over being able to eat food every day. having a job, being able to feel everything that you feel. Joy of life itself. It might feel a bit strange in the beginning, allowing the feelings of joy from things that you normally wouldn´t care so much for before.

Go out, start experiencing life on your body and start diving into joy and explore how joy will make your life better and bring more contentment into your life.


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This might sound self-centred and self-obsessive, which is not the intention. Being your own biggest fan, I simply mean that you should cheer for yourself and stop telling yourself that you are not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough or strong enough. We all know very well how to talk ourselves down, but we do not manage cheering ourselves up the same way. We all have our stronger sides and weaker sides, but that does not mean you should talk yourself down, rather tell yourself how good you are, and tell yourself that you can do it. If we keep telling ourselves and others how bad we are at something, we will be bad at it. I´m an living example myself. Not feeling confident enough and telling myself that I´m much weaker than I actually am. If someone told me a year ago that I would feel comfortable with having a yoga class for 25 people, I would laugh at them and say absolutely no way. I thought about this last night after leading a class, feeling amazingly energised and really confident in myself. I simply just had to jump into it, facing my fears.
On the journey I discovered that most things that I fear are less scary than what I imagined. I also discover that I still have much to learn, but I already know so much more than what I think I do.

If you feel that this is hitting a sensitive spot in yourself,  maybe you know that you are doing this to yourself way more often than you should? Start today. Stop bringing yourself down. Start writing down the things you are good at. Keep repeating it to yourself, tell yourself that you are good. Then instead of putting negative energy into things you feel less confident about, start on a journey of learning and discovering why these things are hard, and what you can do to make them less difficult. Face your fears, one fear at a time. Give yourself time to overcome and concur.
Become your own biggest fan.


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DISCONNECTING TO CONNECT?

Sometimes we truly need to disconnect to connect. Connect to ourselves, connect to our partners, friends or to our surroundings. We need to disconnect from technology that is consuming so much of our energy even when we are not realising it, the technology is draining us for energy. We need to disconnect from our work and our daily life.

Last weekend I went into the mountains staying in a Teepee at an eco farm up in the hills. We barely have internet connection there which gave us time to disconnect from technology and connect with each other, with nature and with ourselves. The concept of staying at the farm is that everyone provides to create community and togetherness. Sharing meals with meaningful and present conversations without the disturbance of modern technology,  which is a rare experience in our society today. A weekend of disconnecting from technology is opening up for connecting with real conversations with yourself and the people your sharing the experience with.

When was the last time you just sat and watched a river or a waterfall ?


Transcending into a new season I find it important to cleanse my space and my surroundings, create clarity and cultivate new energy. Specially going into winter, your energy levels will most likely decrease. It will be very important to be aware of what drains your energy and what gives you energy. I find disconnecting from modern technology is cultivating energy. I´m taking the energy that would usually be put into my phone or pc; into something more meaningful, managing to be more present and connected in the moment.

Give yourself time off from your technology and be present, cultivate that energy and use it to create positive change in your life.

 


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“Dont let people control you through their opinions”

” Most of the time we are offended because we have been taught to place value on someone else´s thoughts, feelings and experiences than our own. We allow other people to shape our self-image so when the can´t see or treat us they way we deserve to be seen or treated, we feel offended. At some point, you´re going to have to decide not to allow others to take your dignity through their opinions and expressions. Every time you are offended , you give a piece of your personal power away to the person who provokes you. With your anger, you´re saying;
Your opinion of me matters more than my opinion of myself. 
When you choose to get offended, you choose to get involved in their emotions and perceptions of you. Cut the emotional and mental cord from those who can´t see you the way you deserve to be see.
They don´t matter. “


I read this paragraph a few weeks back and it really stuck with me. I´m I really letting other peoples opinion of me matter? I´m offended by you? Do I try to change my behaviour so that others will find it easier to accept me?

I had to admit to myself that I am guilty of all of these questions that I asked myself. I have been through them all, more than once. I believe we all have. But I also know that I have grown into a person who are doing it less and less. I´m choosing to be that somehow; annoying, weird, different, freak? Because I find it important to be true to myself, my opinions and the life I want to lead. If people dont go with my flow, I simply try to accept and let them be and I distance myself. Life is to short to live by the wants and needs of other people. What I´ve come to discover as I´ve grown into a more real version of myself, is there are people out there who flow with me. Amazing humans who also dare to be them self, and who also dare to stand up against other peoples opinions of them.
We all deserve to be who and what we want to be, so release your true self and try to distance yourself from the judgement surrounding you.

I Am mine. 
Before I am ever anyone else´s 

– Nayyirah Waheed


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Good morning soulmates, a new day is here to grant us new opportunities for more wisdom, building relationships & taking steps towards our goals.

My journey to higher consciousness and working on my goals include many different approaches. One is listing to podcasts that I find relevant to the many things that I have an interest in or podcasts that add value to my journey of self-growth and improvement.

 

A podcast that I´ve listened to lately is by Shaman Durek, who share stories himself or he has interesting people on the pod sharing stories with us, ancient wisdom and inspirational knowledge to higher consciousness and improved living.

CURRENT EPISODE RECOMMONDATION 

Conscious Sex: Healing, Empowerment & Love. with Alexandra Roxo 

Intimacy + Influence + Impact with Serah D´Laine

 



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