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This one is to all my soul sisters out there, to all your beautiful female formations and female powers.

There is no denying that a male and a female have some different needs and bodily features, that is how the universe created us. So instead of fighting against our bodies and the nature of our being we should embrace our bodies and be proud of being born into a female body.

One of the female needs that I personally for a very very long time did not accept is having my period and not being ashamed and annoyed about it. I used contraception pills for almost 9 years, and probably only had my period 20-30 times over the last nine years. Thinking back I´m between laughing and crying at how badly I´ve treated my feminine powers, I´ve neglected a huge part of being fully me, having an authentic & present experience in a female form.

So this is to all my soul sisters out there, please please please allow yourself to be fully present in your body and embrace your period with love, kindness and presence.

Finally I´m clean of any chemical pill and I`m embracing my period fully, which means I now have to use sanitary products every month. This made me realise how much waist we accumulate with using tampongs and pads. Not only waist, but products that are tested on animals and also products that have toxins that are absorbed straight into your core essence.

The more I thought about the more repulsed I got, to using pads and tampongs. But I was also sceptical to the reusable alternatives. Thankfully I have an amazing soul tribe that I had discussions with, and that inspired me to try out the great alternative to tampongs.

GUESS WHAT!??
It works like magic.

The reusable rubber cup is easy to use, it is easy to clean and is not leaving any toxins in your body and imagine how much less waist we can create.

POSITIVES ABOUT THE MOON CUP

You can leave it in for longer than tampongs.

You can sleep with it.

You can boil it and reuse it over and over again.

No toxins coming into your body.

Much much less waist.

Cheaper than buying single use tampongs and pads.


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Happy woman´s day to all my soul sisters in the entire universe. I hope from the deepest place in my heart that you are taking this day, and every single day of your life to fight for your rights, fight for equality and stand up for yourself.

Stand up for yourself and for your sisters.
Tell yourself how freaking amazing you are, how strong and fierce you are. How God damn beautiful you are, both inside and out. Tell yourself that you can do anything that you like, and say all these things to yourself, out load. Say it to yourself in the mirror, speak up. and not just say it. But mean every single word from the depts of your heart.

Allow yourself to be you, be you in your purest form. Allow yourself to be just the way you want, and know that you should not change yourself for anyone. If someone does not accept you as you are, they are not worth your time.

Be yourself. Love yourself. Love your life. Love your tribe. Love the men that support you for being yourself. Love every single day you get to breath and be.


Sonny Carroll – The Empowered Woman

The Empowered Woman, she moves through the world

with a sense of confidence and grace.

Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom.

Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation and the life she leads is of her own creation.

She now understands what it means to live and let live.

How much to ask for herself and how much to give.

She has a strong, yet generous heart and the inner beauty she emanates truly sets her apart.

Like the mythical Phoenix,

she has risen from the ashes and soared to a new plane of existence,

unfettered by the things that once that posed such resistance.

Her senses now heightened, she sees everything so clearly.

She hears the wind rustling through the trees;

beckoning her to live the dreams she holds so dearly.

She feels the softness of her hands and muses at the strength that they possess.

Her needs and desires she has learned to express.

She has tasted bitter and savored the sweet fruits of life,

overcome adversity and pushed past heartache and strife.

And the one thing she never understood,

she now knows to be true,

it all begins and ends with you.


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My wonderful soul tribe, I hope you are enjoying the now, living in the present moment and taking in all the wonders around you. On my journey with yoga, meditation & mindfulness I´ve been working so much with my breath, and all my teaching is very much focused on using the breath, allowing it to become your very best friend. If you are in need of a little reminder, sit down in a quiet place, relax yourself, take a few deep inhales, and long exhales. Read this poem and take it in fully.

Observe me, says the Breath, and learn to live effortlessly in the Present Moment. 
Feel me, says the Breath, and feel the Ebb and Flow of Life.
Allow me, says the Breath, and I’ll sustain and nourish you, filling you with energy and cleansing you of tension and fatigue.

Move with me, says the Breath, and I’ll invite your soul to dance.
Make sounds with me and I shall teach your soul to sing.
Follow me, says the Breath, and I’ll lead you out to the farthest reaches of the Universe, and inward to the deepest parts of your inner world.

Notice, says the Breath, that I am as valuable to you coming or going… that every part of my cycle is as necessary as another… that after I’m released, I return again and again… that even after a long pause – moments when nothing seems to happen – eventually I am there.

Each time I come, says the Breath, I am a gift from Life. And yet you release me without regret… without suffering… without fear.
Notice how you take me in, invites the Breath. Is it with joy… with gratitude…? Do you take me in fully… invite me into all the inner spaces of your home? …Or carefully into just inside the door? What places in you am I not allowed to nourish?

And notice, says the Breath, how you release me. Do you hold me prisoner in closed up places in the body? Is my release resisted… do you let me go reluctantly, or easily?

And are my waves of Breath, of Life, as gentle as a quiet sea, softly smoothing sandy stretches of yourself….? Or anxious, urgent, choppy waves…? Or the crashing tumult of a stormy sea…?

And can you feel me as the link between your inner and outer worlds… feel me as Life’s exchange between the Universe and You? The Universe breathes me into You… You send me back to the Universe. I am the flow of life between every single part and the Whole.

Your attitude to me, says the Breath, is your attitude to Life. Welcome me… embrace me fully. Let me nourish you completely, then set me free. Move with me, dance with me, sing with me, sigh with me… Love me. Trust me. Don’t try to control me.

I am the Breath.
Life is the Musician. 
You are the flute.
And music – creativity – depends on all of us. You are not the Creator… nor the Creation.
We are all a part of the process of Creativity… You, Life, and me: the Breath.


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Hi wonderful tribe, I had a really interesting experience yesterday. I was listening to this artist that I love, and a few songs came on that made me extremely sad. For a moment I allowed the sadness to fill me up completely, and I let it take over for a few minutes. After a few minutes I become conscious in this unconscious experience and I started analysing this episode of extreme sadness.
You see at this time last year I was heartbroken, feeling sorry for myself, and feeling sorry for my life. I was also spending a lot of time listing to this artists and the songs that I played yesterday, so my body and my unconsciousness was taking me straight back to this time, allowing that sadness to enter and take over, take control.

Thankfully I´ve come along way since that time, and I´m no able to see this being my ego taking control of my body, inflicting pain. Analysing this situation made me realise how far I´ve come in a year.

The last year have been about finding my way, my truth and developing my passions and my skills into becoming a way of living. It has been about accepting that life is impermanent, ever changing, and going with the flow. It has been about being honest with myself. Being loving with myself. Being loving with life, and taking what is given to me. It has been about going forward with what I´m good at, what makes me happy. Choosing a path that is right for me, and not let the standards of other people bring me down.

Life should be more than just a good job being paid well. Having the nicest apartment and the most expensive holiday and showing off to all your social media friends, how damn great your life is. When secretly you are unhappy, unsatisfied and stressed out, and cant wait for the next weekend or holiday to come.

Dont you want your everyday life to be the life you love?
Dont you want to stop caring about what everyone else thinks about you, and just go your way?

If you know that you are not living your life, going your authentic way. It is time to stop the acting game, and start waking up to your life purpose and doing what is right for you. Taking baby steps, and I promise when you slowly start shifting in the right direction you will find the power within you to take it all the way and slowly you will become your highest self.


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Coming back to Australia for holiday started with some obstacles that I was not prepared for; As long as you flow with it and stay present in the moment of change the problems tend to seem smaller and will have a lesser negative effect on you. I love planning and follow plans, but the more I want to stick to the plan the less it works out, and disappointment occur. This pattern of planning and disappointment have thought me to be more present in the moment right now, and embrace any change that might happen to my plan.

Practising more presences have truly helped me in difficult situations or whenever things are not going the way I want them to, I try to take a few deep breaths and bring myself back to the current moment, and tell myself that this is what is is right now, analyse the current situations. Often it turns out that the current moment – the situations is not as bad as your mind is making it up to be. Just because its not what you hoped for or wanted it to be, does not mean its necessarily bad. If you have a positive mindset, any bad situation can be turned around.

The obstacles I´ve had on this trip, was a gentle reminder of being more present in the now, and not worry to much about the plan that I have mapped out. I believe that we are given what we need or have attracted in most cases true out life, and at this time in life I needed to embrace change, a difficult situation and work on being present in the now.


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As human-beings we all chase for happiness. We want to feel and be happy at every moment of our life, however this is an unrealistic goal. Being happy is constant work in progress, and for most of us the state of happiness is a very short lived moment. A moment that passes quickly, the short loved happy moment is there for you to briefly touch. It is completely normal for all humans to go through phases of short lived happiness. The reason is that we all chase for happiness, so to obtain happiness something special  have to occur in your life, in order for you to feel happy.  It might be going to a concert, eating dinner at a fancy restaurant or buying a new dress. All these things are so called special events that you allow yourself to have, in order for you to feel better. Feel happy. Therefor for most people happiness is a short lived moment, because most of us need those special events to happen for us to become happy. So a few days after the dinner party, you are  no longer living on the state of happiness you felt during the dinner, during eating exiting foods.  You are back at maybe just being between happy and unhappy, a state that you cant really define.

I truly belive that our chase for happiness is not helping us improve our lives but rather making us less happy and content in life.

Maybe our idea of happiness may itself be the main obstacle keeping us from true happiness?


“breathing mindfully, you simply
enjoy your in-breath an your out-breath.
You bring the mind home to the body, and you realise
that you are alive, still alive, and that is a wonder.
To be alive is the greatest of all miracles.
We have to learn to live our life deeply as human being.
We need to live every breath deeply,
so that we have peace, JOY, and freedom as we breathe.”
Thich Nhat Hanh

My thoughts are that; instead of chasing for happiness we should start connecting with joy. Happiness in my opinion is state of where you have to stay, but joy is more about feeling great about things in life. Therefor its no pressure of staying in that state, feeling joy will come easier than staying in the state of happiness. Joy can be so easily obtained, if you have the right mindset or you mange to work with your mindset, you can find joy in all the little things in life. The more we work with our mindset and start paying attention to everything around us, and manage to see the wonders of life, we will be able to feel and experience joy, feeling joy without the pressure of staying in that state. Joy can also happen when you are at a place in your life that you are not particularly exited about or happy with. I find that joy comes easier than happiness. If I am feeling sad for something, maybe just playing one song that I really love will bring me joy in that moment, even though I´m not feeling the state of happiness the song will bring me joy, even in a state of misery.

Changing your mindset might take a little time, you will probably fall back in the habit of chasing happiness, but when you realise that you are feeling down because you where on the path of chasing happiness again. Bring yourself back to working with your mindset, and start appreciating little things again, allowing yourself to feel joy over being able to eat food every day. having a job, being able to feel everything that you feel. Joy of life itself. It might feel a bit strange in the beginning, allowing the feelings of joy from things that you normally wouldn´t care so much for before.

Go out, start experiencing life on your body and start diving into joy and explore how joy will make your life better and bring more contentment into your life.


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A friendly and loving reminder that you should allow yourself time off from everything that you feel becomes a burden or stressful. Everyday life for many is very stressful unfortunately, which often leeds to exhaustion and even breakdowns. Life is to short to live without truly living. Become more present and stop worrying about everything you think you have to achieve and complete. Trust in the universe and trust that the more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

Take time off. Rest. Go away for a few days more often. See nature. Be without technology for a few days. Breath. Smile. Laugh. Nurture your self and your soul. Listen to what your body is telling you. Stop trying to be so damn great all the time. 

” Our idea of happiness may itself be the main obstacle keeping us form true happiness”

Thich Nhat Hanh

 


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Are you comfortable in your own skin? Are you comfortable with yourself when you are naked?

We are all born naked, and we all play naked on the beach as children. Then we reach a certain age and our parents no longer feel comfortable with us running around naked. As young adults we are taught that females have to cover up their breasts and that female nipples is associated with something sexual. We are also starting to question the shape and size of our breasts, and our waistline, bum, six-packs and toned visible muscles. Our bodies become so important that we become in need of constant confirmation from others, specially the opposite sex.

We all find flaws with our own bodies, we compare our features to others, it is almost as being happy with your body is shameful, because society is constantly chasing for something better. Body shaming is a thing that has to stop, we need to reconnect with our bodies and start appreciating all different sizes and shapes. Stop sexualising female breasts, the are beautiful indeed, but so are many other body parts too, that we are showing off to the world with no problem. If I dont wanna wear a bra I should not wear one. If I dont wanna wear a bikini top to the beach, why should I? It is my body, my breast. We all have them, shivas and shaktis.

Being happy with our bodies is not about having to have the perfect body, because there is no such thing as perfect. It is about embracing what you have and are. Become comfortable in your own skin, completely naked. Touch and sense all the curves and lines of your body, it is perfect as it is. As long as you are looking after your physical and emotional health, what matter the most is a healthy internal body and mind, a glowing inside will reflect on your external body and make your outside shine.


“Growing up I went through body shaming from other people, and also my own judgement towards myself. I was to skinny, which I would always receive comments on from others, which made me believe it myself. I was to skinny. I would try to eat unhealthy to gain weight. I loved running and exercise, but I would barely allow myself, as I was so worried I would look even more skinny & lose weight. I would wear a bra that was to big with paddings, so it actually looked like I had some curves. I got so used to people thinking that I had eating disorders, it almost did not bother me anymore.

Then I became an adult. Suddenly I started getting all these compliments on how amazing my body look. How lucky I am to be so tiny. How fit I look, perfect toned muscles. Telling me how lucky I am.
How lucky….

Suddenly this little girl went from being imperfect to perfect in the eyes of society?” 


I´m not perfect, and I dont want to be perfect. But I do feel perfect just as I am. Ive come to love my body, just as it is. It deserves to be appreciated just as it is. Your body deserves to be appreciated by you, just as it is.  Embrace every inch of it, be one with your naked body & start accepting.
We are all born naked. We all have bodies of flesh, bones, muscles, fat, hair and curves. Our bodies is a very important part of the human experience. Embrace your bodily experience. Become one with it and if you, just like I do feel; oppressed by society? Start going against the stream, yes it will put you in an uncomfortable situation, but if nobody is willing to fight for equality and challenge the rules of society, nothing will change.


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This might sound self-centred and self-obsessive, which is not the intention. Being your own biggest fan, I simply mean that you should cheer for yourself and stop telling yourself that you are not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough or strong enough. We all know very well how to talk ourselves down, but we do not manage cheering ourselves up the same way. We all have our stronger sides and weaker sides, but that does not mean you should talk yourself down, rather tell yourself how good you are, and tell yourself that you can do it. If we keep telling ourselves and others how bad we are at something, we will be bad at it. I´m an living example myself. Not feeling confident enough and telling myself that I´m much weaker than I actually am. If someone told me a year ago that I would feel comfortable with having a yoga class for 25 people, I would laugh at them and say absolutely no way. I thought about this last night after leading a class, feeling amazingly energised and really confident in myself. I simply just had to jump into it, facing my fears.
On the journey I discovered that most things that I fear are less scary than what I imagined. I also discover that I still have much to learn, but I already know so much more than what I think I do.

If you feel that this is hitting a sensitive spot in yourself,  maybe you know that you are doing this to yourself way more often than you should? Start today. Stop bringing yourself down. Start writing down the things you are good at. Keep repeating it to yourself, tell yourself that you are good. Then instead of putting negative energy into things you feel less confident about, start on a journey of learning and discovering why these things are hard, and what you can do to make them less difficult. Face your fears, one fear at a time. Give yourself time to overcome and concur.
Become your own biggest fan.


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“Dont let people control you through their opinions”

” Most of the time we are offended because we have been taught to place value on someone else´s thoughts, feelings and experiences than our own. We allow other people to shape our self-image so when the can´t see or treat us they way we deserve to be seen or treated, we feel offended. At some point, you´re going to have to decide not to allow others to take your dignity through their opinions and expressions. Every time you are offended , you give a piece of your personal power away to the person who provokes you. With your anger, you´re saying;
Your opinion of me matters more than my opinion of myself. 
When you choose to get offended, you choose to get involved in their emotions and perceptions of you. Cut the emotional and mental cord from those who can´t see you the way you deserve to be see.
They don´t matter. “


I read this paragraph a few weeks back and it really stuck with me. I´m I really letting other peoples opinion of me matter? I´m offended by you? Do I try to change my behaviour so that others will find it easier to accept me?

I had to admit to myself that I am guilty of all of these questions that I asked myself. I have been through them all, more than once. I believe we all have. But I also know that I have grown into a person who are doing it less and less. I´m choosing to be that somehow; annoying, weird, different, freak? Because I find it important to be true to myself, my opinions and the life I want to lead. If people dont go with my flow, I simply try to accept and let them be and I distance myself. Life is to short to live by the wants and needs of other people. What I´ve come to discover as I´ve grown into a more real version of myself, is there are people out there who flow with me. Amazing humans who also dare to be them self, and who also dare to stand up against other peoples opinions of them.
We all deserve to be who and what we want to be, so release your true self and try to distance yourself from the judgement surrounding you.

I Am mine. 
Before I am ever anyone else´s 

– Nayyirah Waheed


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